Written by a Girl

This is a reply to the note "Written by a Guy"..well,maybe,in a more long and extreme point of view. It might not represent all the girls and it's not meant specifically to anybody,just for sharing purpose.

A girl, even though she seems tough on the outside,does have a soft heart on the inside.

When we like a guy, no matter how long, most of us tend to wait for the guy to approach us, rather than approaching them, because we are afraid of humiliating ourself,rejection? Ouch,that hurts like knife cutting or scratching the heart. Maybe worst. However, we tend to give certain gists such as passing by them and smile jz to make sure they notice us or even talk to them. Some of us tend to sit down quietly and watch the guy as long as he doesn't realise us doing so. Once he does, we'll tend to do somethng else or some will even blush! Before we do any of these, most of us will make sure there's nothing wrong with our look,hence,we tend to be looking for mirror or any reflecting objects. Not that we are 'plastic' or anything,jz making sure that u will see the best of us even though we know it doesn't really matter.

Each and everyone of us will have our very own 'fairy tale' on how we would like to fall in love. Some like to start from being just friends because the insecure feeling of falling in love to a wrong guy. So, when we say, "let's just be friend first", don't give up or turn away from us or even 'force' us to accept u,cz we are jz being 'safe'..give us some times to know each other or it might end up badly.. Some awaits for their prince charming to notice their presence and propose. With or without a gift or flower is not important to us,as long as u came 'with all ur heart', however,I'm not saying that we don't like any gift or flower.That would be a bonus! Some believe in love at first sight or first kiss or even first love heartbeat when they meet 'the one'.

How do u know if we have a crush on u? Now this is interesting.

When we reply your messages or answer your calls or go out with u, it doesn't mean we are ready for u, it means we are considering u or we r just being friendly..

If we are the one who starts messaging u almost everyday, or calling u just to say hi or giving reasons for doing so or asking u what is your plan for today, or always like to mingle around with u,then maybe u can approach us..

Most of us x prefer to be proposed on the phone, we find it difficult to know whether u r really honest or just playing around. Face to face is important, even though we might ask for some times to consider (with a smile on the face), that means 'u r almost there'.. If during this waiting period u gt bored of waiting, then u should just tell us, but be ready for the answer.

Some relationships start without any specific date and time, some of us don't mind or some even prefer it that way, we don't have to tell the whole world that 'we are together', as long as u don't go around and tell people 'I AM SINGLE'!! Then, u r in a big trouble.

When we say thank u, we mean it,all u have to do is smile and say 'welcome'. Simple rule of interaction.

When we say don't, we mean it,another simple rule. I u break it, bare with the consequences.

When we say, u look good or handsome, we mean it, so don't say I look ugly' or 'nonsense' or even be too proud of it till u go n tell ppl bout it. We might stop praising u.

When we say 'I love u', we really mean it,a warm hug,kiss on the lips or forehead and "I do love u too" would do.

Don't go around checking other girls when we r right next to u or talking bout their look with your friends in front of us or even comparing us,we'll get annoyed. Yes, we get jealous,anything wrong with that?

Don't talk censored topic with us,we don't like it or neither find it amusing. :X

We appreciate it when u bring us along to meet your friends and introduce us as your girl. We might tend to be a bit quite for the first time, but believe me, we are cracking our head on how to get along well with your friends. Just be ourself won't work with everybody. We are trying to adapt. :P

When we are together on an outing with our friends, we appreciate if u hold our hands or walk with us, it's alright if u don't do so too, but as long as we have our own company too n jz do give a little bit of attention to us sometimes. If not, we might try to attract your attention and if u still ignore us, then u'll b in trouble.

When we are watching movie, we would love it if u push the seat's arm or whatsoever it is called,backwards, and pull us near u,put your arm around our waist and let us lean on your shoulder. A quick kiss on the lips or a kiss on the forehead will do. Don't have to be extreme. Pay attention to us sometimes during the movie, don't get too attached to the movie that u forgot bout our existence.

We love it when u hold our hand when we cross the road, it makes us feel that u do care about us, but don't let go when we are already on the other side of the road. It's like giving us false hope. :(

When we go out for a meal, we do appreciate when u asks us what we would like to eat, but when we say 'u choose', we mean it,impress us! Don't go forcing us to order coz sometimes we like it when u take control and make decision. :D

When we are out for a date, try not to bring us to a dark and empty place late at night by saying 'i just wanna spend some time alone with u', when u do that, we'll pull an uncomfortable face n when u tend to ignore,by that time, we know that ur love is not pure and u wanted something else. We might leave u on the spot or some will be stupid enough for something so-called 'love' to be patient and give u chances. But,it won't last long because our love for u is dying slowly. And when we do leave u, don't put the blame on us by saying 'no reason for her to leave me' and so on..because we know your dark secret, we are kind enough to keep it to ourself. :<

We do appreciate it if u bring us on a fun date, do something interesting or adventurous, something that both of us like, or even just a walk by the seasides during the sunset. :P

When we argue, don't say something like 'u r always like this' or 'girls are all the same' because that means ur generalizing us,and we hate it. Coz when we say the same thing to u, u'll be pissed off. Try to talk nicely to us, and if we are still angry, give us some times, but don't give us 'faces'. If we r wrong or even if we r not, after some times, we'll come and say sorry,n if we do, a 'sorry too' will do rather than 'nah,it's fine'. Coz that means u don't understand us or your ego is too high that u couldn't tolerate. ;{

Don't get angry when we are correcting u or telling u the truth,coz ur ego is our worst enemy. U might hurt us even though u don't realize it. Some of us will tell u directly on the face when u hurt us,but most of us might not,because we know the more we say, the angrier u'll get. Don't say u've nvr done such thing, we know. :O

"take take take it all but u never give" (Grenade by Bruno Mars).

If u say u love us, there's nothing wrong if u show us some respect,tolerate and be understanding. Love is not love per se, u don't OWN us, we give and SHARE our love to u and we can take it back when we know it's not worth it. Love is not enough by telling everyone how much u love us n will die for us bla bla bla,love is give and take.. Showing off and loving with all your heart is different. They might believe u, but we know the truth. :[

If there's no more love, there's no use to fake it and go on with it. Coz it's not going anywhere. Face it n let go. Don't go around finding d second love, third love, fourth, fifth and so on. We'll remember u for life. Letting go is much better than sharing. Coz by letting go,the girl/guy will have a chance to find the real 'One' for him/her. Not given fake hope from u just for your own pleasure. The last and least u can do right? Just imagine how it feels if it happens that the victim is u or your sister or brother. I don't believe in sharing. Sorry if it offense anybody.

Girls aren't complicated if guys don't make them so. Maybe if not u, maybe the previous guy(s) in our life. So, don't go around and spread that we are complicated. Maybe we are,maybe we've been through bad times and we learn n become aware and too careful. Is it fair if u blame us for doing so?

Perhaps, if none of us ever been so bossy or egoistic,perhaps if we all understand the importance of equality between male and female and no one is the king and the other is the slave, life would not be that complicated. I'm not saying all guys are bad, or all girls are perfect, I'm just saying if we do tolerate each other,'the world would be a better place'.

Whatever it is, I believe that God creates partner for each and everyone of us,a guy for a girl.. Maybe not everyone,maybe some people have different purpose in life, to be a father,a sister etc.. But for those who believe in love,I assure your love one is somewhere out there, u just haven't found him/her yet. One day u will, I know cz I've seen lots of broken-hearted ppl,and I've also been d one,saying "i'll never find another one",but in the end,sooner or later,they do,we'll all do.

Don't look at life in a very short point of view. If it's meant to be, it will be, if it's not then why force it? Lots of other things are waiting for u out there,go for it! As for love, u don't really have to push yourself and look for it, it will come. Don't blame anyone, don't blame the Creator. Pray and believe. It's a matter of choice, the path u choose leads u to your own story of life.

Forgive but never forget. It means we forgive those who hurt us and we learn from things that happened and try to be a better person. Never forget doesn't mean holding a revenge towards them, it means we should all learn from it. I'm sharing as someone who experienced being hurt by people and might've hurt some, not by purpose,but by believing for a better path for both. Nobody is perfect.

Goodluck in finding "The One" and if u found him/her,don't let it go to waste.

If u like this, just forward it as "Written by a girl". Thanks!.

P/s: Salute who wrote this. :)